2019 · Bariatric Surgery - My Story · Couple Time · Disney · Empty Nest · kids · Uncategorized

Disney Without Kids

Okay…as most of you know…our kids are older–26 and 22–and both live out of our home.

Carmen (the 26 year old) has been to Disney with me the most often (lastly at the February Disney Princess 5k). She was not happy when David and I decided to go by ourselves.

We had a ball….really.When we got our magic bands verified (have had issues in the past), the attendant asked if we were celebrating anything. We looked at each other and said “Disney WITHOUT the kids!!” So we ended up getting buttons to say just that.  Cast members throughout the Parks (Walt Disney World) not only got excited for us but most of them gave us high fives! Ha!

But part of the experience, for me anyway, was the Star Wars part of Hollywood Studios. David met his favorite, Chewbacca, and we rode the newer Star Tours. We took our time and did what we wanted…no agenda…no kids getting upset that they didn’t get to do everything they wanted to do.I love this picture…me and my sass.

The photographers don’t tell you what they are placing in the photo…they just ask you to make a certain expression and look a direction. France EPCOT with Chip! Love it.

And met Edna Mode!! ūüíóūüíóūüíó She was precious! I also have no memory of what was so funny.  

 Selfies, we took lots of them. We just loved being able to spend time together…playing at Disney.


2018 · Anxiety · blessings · Christmas · Depression · Empty Nest · family · Holiday · memories · Merry Christmas · Random Thoughts · thankful · traditions · Uncategorized · Work-job

Merry Christmas Eve

This picture was from last year. Everyone was home and we were able to celebrate as a family.

Stephen’s work schedule (and now that he has moved out) it is harder to see him. When we spoke about it last night, he wasn’t sure that he would be able to come by to celebrate Christmas until New Year’s Day.

It’s hard for those who work in the holidays to be able to spend time with family and friends. I don’t normally think about those that are working when I shop or eat out until I have someone close to me that is going through it.

Holidays are not always a happy time for most. It is stressful and typically has disappointments from unmet expectations. When the kids were small, they shared the holiday with my ex husband. I really didn’t want to even have a tree up if they weren’t home but I knew that when they did get home they would want it. Being separated from loved ones over a holiday is so very difficult.

All of this to say, hug your loved ones. Enjoy the moments you are able to have with one another, and remember the greatest gift.


Anxiety · Bariatric Surgery - My Story · Changes · Empty Nest · Quotes · Uncategorized · WLS


Definition of CHANGE (Merriam-Webster)

changed;  changing

transitive verb

  1. a :¬† to make different in some particular :¬† alter never bothered to change the will¬†b :¬† to make radically different :¬† transform can’t change human nature¬†c :¬† to give a different position, course, or direction to changed his residence from Ohio to California

  2. a :¬† to replace with another let’s change the subject¬†b :¬† to make a shift from one to another :¬† switch always changes sides in an argument¬†c :¬† to exchange for an equivalent sum of money (as in smaller denominations or in a foreign currency) change a 20-dollar bill d:¬† to undergo a modification of foliage changing color¬†e :¬† to put fresh clothes or covering on change a bed

intransitive verb

  1. :  to become different her mood changes every hour

  2. : of the moon :  to pass from one phase (see 1phase 1) to another

  3. :¬† to shift one’s means of conveyance :¬† transfer on the bus trip he had to change twice

  4. of the voice :  to shift to lower register :  break His voice started to change when he turned 13.

  5. :  to undergo transformation, transition, or substitution winter changed to spring

  6. :  to put on different clothes need a few minutes to change for dinner

  7. :  exchange, switch neither liked his seat so they changed with each other



change hands

  1. :  to pass from the possession of one owner to that of another money changes hands many times

One thing in life that is constant is change. ¬†My dad always said this. ¬†Most of the time, I am okay with change so long as I am in control of it. ¬†Ha, who isn’t, right?

We are going through some major role changes at work with new leadership, and at first I was shocked, then sad, and ended up excited. ¬†The next morning, completely overwhelmed, then angry at the rumors. ¬†Last night,¬†I was completely excited again remembering that this is new, different, and challenging. ¬†I love that. ¬†I love being told I can’t accomplish something. ¬†Bring it, right? But still scared of the change. ¬†The unknown.

So the definitions list above are to remind me that the small, little word “change” can mean lots of different things to different people. ¬†I am in the midst of change at work, with being back in school, becoming an empty nest home, and my weight loss. ¬†Lots of change. ¬†So I leave you with these:

“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.” – Winston Churchill

“Change is inevitable. ¬†Progress is optional.” – Tony Robbins


5 Love Languages · Empty Nest · gifts · Random Thoughts · thoughts · Uncategorized

5 Love Languages

So the other night, David and I were watching “A Big Fat Greek Wedding 2” and someone made the comment in the movie about being married takes out the romance of the relationship. ¬†I snickered. ¬†David took offense. ¬†We have different definitions of romance, and we both realized that at that moment.

The 5 Love Languages talks about how you like/love and how your partner receives those same things.  I have the book from years ago.  I even got the one for parents and kids to discover how to communicate with your children.

Well, we are learning to communicate again.  We are in a different place with the kids gone out of the house.  We are in a different place.  And, I am learning who I am again.

So, in The 5 Love Languages, you basically break down what brings you joy.  Mine are receiving gifts, personal touch, acts of service, quality time, and words of affirmation.  I had forgotten how important gifts are to me.

David made me a gardening bench out of pallets he found. ¬†Completely blew me away last year. ¬†(It popped up on my Facebook memories feed.)13166716_1131160830269618_122406483_nHaven’t used it like I want to, but in the next few weeks I will be doing some yard, and gardening.

I am trying to remind myself that these are just small snippets of our personalities, and that we are really good.  But I also believe that we need to grow, and adapt to not only to each other but to oneself.

More to come.



Bariatric Surgery - My Story · Empty Nest · Recipes · Uncategorized · WLS

Chicken with Portobello Mushrooms

Boneless Chicken Thighs with Spinach in a baby Portobello Mushrooms Lemon Butter Sauce.

Y’all…this was super yummy. ¬†I made this for dinner on Tuesday, and really kind of came upon it. ¬†Stephen was supposed to come over for dinner, but ended up sleeping through. Ha. Adulting, right? ¬†Anyway.

6-8 Chicken Thighs – boneless, skinless
1 medium onion, chopped
2 garlic cloves, chopped
1 package of Portobello Mushrooms, sliced
1 large package of baby spinach, washed
Zoe’s Seasoning, salt & pepper

This is what I wanted to begin with…but only ended up with the Zoe’s Kitchen Seasoning. ¬†It add a robust flavor to the chicken.


Rinse and patted dry the chicken thighs. ¬†Season one side with course salt, pepper, and Zoe’s seasoning. ¬†Add to a hot skillet, and brown on both sides (cooking them about 7 minutes on each side) to a golden brown.


While the chicken cooks, saute the onion until milky then add the baby portobello mushrooms.


Cook until mushrooms are browned.  I did add pepper to the mushrooms as well.  And butter.  Lots of butter.


Oh, and garlic Рadded these about midway through cooking the mushrooms.  I add 2 pats of butter, and continue to brown.  To make the sauce, I used the rest of the butter (1 stick total), and 1/2 cup of lemon juice.  I added fresh parsley as well to brighten it.


Remove the mushrooms from pan, and keep warm.  In the same pan, add more olive oil if needed to cook the spinach.  Cook until wilted.


My salad plate: one thigh, pan sauce and spinach.


David’s regular plate with spinach on the bottom of the chicken (2), and leftover pasta salad.


This was a bright, silky sauce over the tender chicken.  Very Spring.  I will be cooking this again, maybe with asparagus?


Empty Nest · Travel · Uncategorized · Weekend Trips

Weekend Trips

I am in charge of our next couples weekend trip. ¬†Some of the parameters for the trips are that they stay in budget of $400 for each couple for the rooms, within a days drive, and can work within everyone’s schedule. ¬†Ha.

So, we are looking at early October, and I have no clue where to go.  The girls have gone to New Orleans, and that is an option for all of us since there is so much history for the guys to see.  But, been there, done that, ya know.

So…do you have any ideas? Favorite places in the South? ¬†Any input is welcomed! And, thank you in advance.


Empty Nest · family · LSU · Random Thoughts · thoughts · Travel · Uncategorized · WPS!

LSU & Baby Girl

This week is my Spring Break at the Northwest Florida State College.  I love being able to be off for both school and work.  I do have Math test on Monday when we return, but overall, I have the week off.

Catching up on appointments, the dentist, rheumatologist, and eye doctor all this week.  But…I also get to see Carmen at LSU.  I wasn’t able to move her in last summer (we went on a 50th birthday cruise), and haven’t had the opportunity until now.  I was able to go over on Tuesday, and come home today.

The main event of the trip was to go a LSU Men’s Baseball game on Wednesday evening.  I am all about LSU, Geaux Tigers! except when they play Arkansas.  You know that I LOVE my Razorbacks, win or lose, right?!  We had a great time, cold, but the best part was spending time with Carmen.

They lost in extra innings! 15 Innings to be exact. We got too cold and left after the 14th inning.  We did really try to stay but it was 11pm, and 48 degrees. Ugh. 

Love her.  Loved this time together.




Craft · Craft Room · Empty Nest · Uncategorized

Craft Room – Part 5 – Reality

David has been working on his office area now that I thought I had everything out.  Ha.  I forgot about the closet.  You know, where everything was stored. Yep.

So…what once was a wonderful, calm space is now cluttered.  I need to go through all of this before I even think about finding a spot for it.

So…anxiety again over the chaos.  I want it clean and for it not to be cluttered.  Another short term project, but it will be a major benefit once completed.





Craft · Craft Room · Empty Nest · Uncategorized

Craft Room – Part 3

Painting is done.  I am so happy with the shades of grey with the bright white trim.2017-02-25-09-18-43

We decided that a door would make a good craft table.  The doors are sold without paint or stain for about $35.00.  We sanded and painted the top and sides.  David drilled holes for the cables (sewing machines).  He mounted the door on brackets (2×2), and then secured it with screws.  The shelves are basic room organizers, and are about 31 inches high.  They serve as legs (for support) as well.




I really like the depth (32 inch door) of the table.  Not sure about how I am going to use the shelves just yet, but I don’t think I will have a problem filling them.