So the other night, David and I were watching “A Big Fat Greek Wedding 2” and someone made the comment in the movie about being married takes out the romance of the relationship. I snickered. David took offense. We have different definitions of romance, and we both realized that at that moment.
The 5 Love Languages talks about how you like/love and how your partner receives those same things. I have the book from years ago. I even got the one for parents and kids to discover how to communicate with your children.
Well, we are learning to communicate again. We are in a different place with the kids gone out of the house. We are in a different place. And, I am learning who I am again.
So, in The 5 Love Languages, you basically break down what brings you joy. Mine are receiving gifts, personal touch, acts of service, quality time, and words of affirmation. I had forgotten how important gifts are to me.
David made me a gardening bench out of pallets he found. Completely blew me away last year. (It popped up on my Facebook memories feed.)Haven’t used it like I want to, but in the next few weeks I will be doing some yard, and gardening.
I am trying to remind myself that these are just small snippets of our personalities, and that we are really good. But I also believe that we need to grow, and adapt to not only to each other but to oneself.
More to come.